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[drakyndra]

I don't understand negative people. They confuse me.

Comments

[svilleficrecs.livejournal.com]

Often, they have a big pit of negative about something in their lives that they can't or won't address directly. So they shit on others in order to make themselves feel better, consciously or not. When someone's quite obviously being negative for the sake of being negative or mean...I try to remind myself that they've got some big unpleasantness in their lives, and try as they might, unless they have some intitutionally mandated power over me (boss, landlord, parents) or they're someone I give a shit about...they're worthy of pity and that's about it.

Er, thus ends today's Dr.Phil.:)

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

Dear Dr Phil,

Thank you for your show. It made me slightly less confused, even if I still haven't the faintest idea how people can have much negativity about anything, really.

Yours, a perpetual optimist.

[svilleficrecs.livejournal.com]

Living well is the best revenge.

negative people

[mustangsally78.livejournal.com]

Fuck 'em.

Got no use for 'em. I get enough in RL, I don't tolerate that shit online.

That's the cool thing about being online, you can really IGNORE people you don't like!

:::is not negative, but amusingly cynical::::

Re: negative people

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

I'm an optimistic cynic, if that makes any sense. I can be terribly cynical about certain things, but that doesn't stop me hoping for the best.

*ponders*

I think it's that I tend to think the best of individual people, but am rather cynical when it comes to groups. Particularly fandom related ones.

[msgenevieve.livejournal.com]

They are confusing and eventually exhausting, I've found. There's nothing you can do except not let it suck all the joy out of things for *you*, even if that means resorting to a 'meh' and a handwave until they snap out of it, which doesn't often happen because they're normally enjoying bitching/moaning far too much.

Why yes, I do know several negative people in RL. Does it show? *g*

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

I just find it an odd perspective, you know? The way some people seem determine to not like, to not enjoy thing.

[livii.livejournal.com]

Mmm, I understand negative people, it doesn't bother me except when I get overexcited and start babbling on about a point in an episode, heh.

We all interact with different things in different ways, and I'm a bit leery of the comments here that are so against negativity, because you can bet your bottom dollar they've gotten just as negative about something before too. I won't deny that I haven't (omg GitF aaah!) ;)

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

I think it's just the fact that I always try to be positive, and am quite basically a great big optimist, and so I really don't get people who seem devoted to being aggressively negative. I can understand disappointment in something, but forceful negativity bewilders me.

[nostalgia-lj.livejournal.com]

*cry*

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

STOP CONFUSING ME! You don't normally.

[nostalgia-lj.livejournal.com]

i loved mickey

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

*is less confused*

[nostalgia-lj.livejournal.com]

um. *thinks* and gitf'ace but i'm worried about that?

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

NOOO, don't let the hate take away from your love!

[nostalgia-lj.livejournal.com]

but what if i only love it out of hate?!

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

...HUH?

[nostalgia-lj.livejournal.com]

Rose cries an emo tear! What if I merely love it because I want a ship and just hate Rose? LIKE THOSE OPPRESSIVE ROMANASHIPPERS? :(

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

Loving something solely because you hate something else isn't a healthy reaction. In any circumstances.

If you love something, it should be for it's own sake.

[nostalgia-lj.livejournal.com]

I think I love it for it's own sake, but what if I am wrong?

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

Do not doubt the love.

[nostalgia-lj.livejournal.com]

It has a horsie in it.

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

Everything is better with horses.

[vass]

I'm confused too: I don't understand what you mean by 'negative people'.

People who say 'no' a lot? Pessimistic people? Angry people? Antimatter people?

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

Pessimistic people, mostly - the sort that have something happen, and only notice the bad aspects of it.

Though the image of anti-matter people is amusing.

[melata-fic.livejournal.com]

I'm slightly negative, because then I can use up all my negative and go around beaming at people and being optimistic.

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

You know, I think that's an attitude I can approve of.

[melata-fic.livejournal.com]

Better than saving it up, at least. :)

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

I will admit the fittingness of that icon.

[ranorith.livejournal.com]

Just start mocking them 'til they get all mopey, leave them to become negative about it, then they'll be negative negative people which of course are positive people. :)

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

Maths: making the world a better place.

[fa11ing-away.livejournal.com]

if only it worked like that.

if a person posts 2 mopey LJ entries, is that the equivalent of one happy one?

[ranorith.livejournal.com]

No, that's just boring old -1 + (-1) = -2

But if they make a mopey post, and then make a post moping and bitching ABOUT that mopey post then I think it all cancels.

Two wrongs do not make a right, but three rights make a left. Hehehe.

[--kali--.livejournal.com]

Try being negative back at them and see if it repels them like negatives do in skience.

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

But I don't like being negative! *whines*

[--kali--.livejournal.com]

The only other option is to get a really big magnet and point the negative end at them.

[drakyndra.livejournal.com]

Note to self: Buy really big magnet.